The Unmuted Truth #8: From Silence to Strength: Steps to Owning Your Voice and Finding Your Power

For Everyone Who Was Taught To Whisper

By Nina, Transformational Mindset Coach

If you missed the beginning of this series, you can read The Unmuted Truth #1 here

'Rising from the silence — strength begins where your truth breaks through the surface.'

The Weight of Silence

I remember waking up one morning and realising something had shifted.

It wasn’t a grand awakening.

It was quiet. Subtle. Uneasy.

The desolation I had wrapped around me for years had been replaced by something new: anger.

Not the white-hot rage that explodes outward, but a slow burn rising from deep within — like coals that had always been there, buried under layers of overwhelm, disillusionment, and worthlessness.

Something had changed.

There was a new friction between me and the world — a low hum of frustration that followed me everywhere. It leaked out in sarcasm, in jaded jabs I didn’t mean, in confused interactions that left both me and others feeling off balance.

This was a new emotion for me – and I certainly wasn’t using it at the right time, in the right way.

I didn’t know it yet, but I was standing on the edge of something powerful.

I wasn’t losing it.

I was finding it.

My voice.

'The weight of silence is rarely still — it twists, swirls, and simmers before it rises.'

The Shift: Finding Your Power in the Discomfort

This isn’t the first time I’ve written about finding my voice.

In fact, if you’ve journeyed with me before — through Soul Sparks or earlier Unmuted Truths — you’ll know that reclaiming my voice has been an unfolding, not a single moment.

Hence - Unmuted

But this time?

It was different.

This wasn’t about whispering affirmations into the mirror or gently asking the world for space to speak.

This was about heat.

Discomfort.

Disruption.

It was about sitting with the rising feeling that something in me could no longer stay quiet.

Not because I suddenly felt brave — but because staying silent started to hurt more than speaking up ever could.

Speaking my truth for the first time was messy.

Messy for me — and messy for the person on the receiving end.

It wasn’t some grand life-changing declaration.

It was simple.

Raw.

Unapologetic.

“No… I don’t want to do that.”

I think it surprised us both.

What surprised me even more was that the world didn’t end because I spoke my truth.

It shook something loose in me.

Because for so long, I had been performing a version of myself that made others comfortable. And I was silently breaking under the weight of it.

And I realised something powerful in that moment:

Your voice doesn’t return when you feel ready.

It returns when you’ve had enough.

When silence becomes too heavy to carry.

That discomfort — the awkwardness, the missteps, the misunderstood sarcasm — wasn’t a sign that I was broken.

It was the first sign that I was waking up.

'Truth doesn’t always arrive loud. Sometimes it starts with a crack — and the courage to keep going anyway.'

Steps to Owning Your Voice: Finding Your Power

This isn’t a one-and-done process.

Owning your voice is a daily decision — a muscle you build with every conversation, every boundary, every moment you choose truth over performance.

Here are the steps that helped me — and that may help you, too.

Firstly - Name the Silence

Before you can speak up, you have to understand what kept you quiet.

Was it fear of conflict? The need to be liked? A childhood pattern of being dismissed?

Naming the root of your silence is the first act of reclaiming your power.

Don’t judge it — just see it. That alone begins to loosen its grip.

Then - Stop Listening to the Noise

The external voices (“Be nice.” “Don’t make waves.”)

The internal ones (“Who do you think you are?”)

Silence isn’t the absence of noise — it’s often full of it.

Start noticing whose voices echo in your mind when you hesitate to speak.

You don’t have to argue with them — just stop treating them like truth.

After that - Speak Up (Even if Your Voice Shakes)

Start small. Say no. Say yes. Say “I’m not sure.”

Say something.

It doesn’t have to be eloquent or well-timed.

It just has to be yours.

Let it be messy. Let it be awkward.

The goal isn’t perfection — it’s honesty.

Now - Believe in What You’re Saying

Before others can believe you, you have to.

Stand in your truth — not because it’s loud, but because it’s yours.

You don’t need external approval to validate your experience.

Trust that your perspective is real. It matters. You matter.

Remember to - Make It a Habit

This is where it shifts from a moment… to a way of being.

Practice saying what you mean in safe places.

Check in with your body before saying yes.

Pause before falling into people-pleasing.

The more you practice, the less it feels like rebellion — and the more it feels like coming home.

Importantly - Trust That You’re Worth Hearing

This is the deepest layer.

It’s not just about using your voice — it’s about believing it deserves space.

You don’t have to shout. You don’t have to convince.

You just have to speak — and trust that’s enough.

Now its Time to - Celebrate Yourself

Every time you choose your voice over silence, you’re rewriting your story.

Don’t rush past it.

Don’t downplay it.

Celebrate it.

Whether it’s a whispered no, a boundary held, or a truth spoken into a quiet room — it matters.

You matter.

Acknowledge your courage.

Let yourself be proud.

This is what healing sounds like.

'Each step forward is a declaration: I am here. I am ready. I will not stay silent.'

A Truth You Can’t Unhear

You don’t have to be the loudest voice in the room to be powerful.

You just have to speak the truth that’s yours.

It won’t always be clean.

It won’t always be welcomed.

But it will always be worth it.

And with every step — every whisper, every wobble, every bold NO — you’re not just reclaiming your voice.

You’re remembering who you are.

'This is what it looks like when truth becomes a part of you — no longer something to chase, just something to carry.'

🌼From My Heart to Yours

You are allowed to take up space.

You are allowed to speak, even if your voice trembles

And you are allowed to feel proud of every word that rises from the truth inside you.

Every time you say,

“No, thank you.”

“That’s not okay with me.”

“This is who I am.”

You honour the part of you that once believed she had to stay quiet to stay safe.

Because your voice is not just sound.

It is a declaration:

I am here. I am worthy. I am not hiding anymore.

🌿 One boundary at a time.

🌿 One breath of honesty.

🌿 One truth that sets you free.

🕯️ And remember —Your voice is sacred. Let it rise.

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With love and fierce compassion,

Nina 💖🌹

Your truth is not inconvenient.

And your story does not need to be polished before it is spoken.

'You are not fragmented. You are becoming. From my heart to yours — may you rise, rest, and return to your truth again and again.'